Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Information at your fingertips

When Maddy had her first speech evaluation, I found myself searching through baby books, medical files, and even pictures trying to remember when she met her milestones so I could answer all of the questions on the mounds of paperwork I had to complete. Then when she had an evaluation with Gilbert Public Schools, it was the same thing but at least I had the majority of the information on the speech evaluation paperwork. It was at that time I decided I needed to have a binder for her that had all of these evaluations along with sections for her IEP (individualized education plan), school information, health information, emergency contacts, Matt's work address (I never remember that), and anything else I could think of. I knew putting in a little up front time would save me so much in the end and that it would be a valuable tool to take to all IEP meetings, doctor appointments, parent teacher conferences, and anything Maddy. Naturally, I did one for Peyton, too although his doesn't have quite the amount of information, but it is all relevant. I also carry their immunization cards in these binders but not their social security information or birth certificate. I would highly recommend creating one for each child or something similar. It is a great tool to have and it is nice to have everything in one place.

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Moist Chocolate Cake Recipe | Taste of Home Recipes

These recipes are ones that I tried out on Nana and Papa while they were here. They were all a hit! Moist Chocolate Cake Recipe Taste of Home Recipes

Roast Pork with Apples & Onions Recipe | Taste of Home Recipes

Roast Pork with Apples & Onions Recipe Taste of Home Recipes

Lemon Cheese Braid Bread Recipe | Taste of Home Recipes

Lemon Cheese Braid Bread Recipe Taste of Home Recipes

Dijon-Crusted Chicken Breasts Recipe | Taste of Home Recipes

Dijon-Crusted Chicken Breasts Recipe Taste of Home Recipes

Colorful Chicken Croissants Recipe | Taste of Home Recipes

Colorful Chicken Croissants Recipe Taste of Home Recipes

Jumbo Zucchini Chip Muffins Recipe | Taste of Home Recipes

Jumbo Zucchini Chip Muffins Recipe Taste of Home Recipes

SAHM




I had no idea what SAHM stood for before we moved to Virginia. Turns out it is stay at home mom. So since that is now what I am, I found a group called the Prince William SAHM's and Peyton and I meet up with some of the other mom's and kids to play and find new things to do in the area.


The member's of the group can also host playdates at their homes and since I have been having a heck of a time getting Peyton to go do anything, I decided to bring the friends to him. We had a playdate last week, Spring Fling - Paint, Plant, and Play with Peyton in which 5 other mom's and their kids came over and we painted small terra cotta pots, planted seeds and played (not necessarily in that order). It was a big hit so I went ahead and planned a few more for May. We have another one scheduled for this Thursday with shaving cream, sand and spaghetti painting. It is supposed to be a nice day so we will be able to be nice and messy - outside!


We've meet up with the group at an indoor bounce house, a local park on St. Patrick's Day for a Leprechaun Treasure Hunt and there is an Easter Egg Hunt coming up. The women I have met are great and it is nice to have adult conversation and I love having people come over. Hopefully the other playdates will be fun, too; Cinco de Mayo shakers and a pinata, Dinosaur Dig, and Painting with Ice cubes.

Cherry Blossoms, Nana and Papa






Nana and Papa visited us this past weekend from New Hampshire and while we had a wonderful visit, unfortunately, there aren't too many pictures to document the visit. We headed in to DC on Friday April 1, but Peyton was just having a rough day and we didn't stay for too long and it was terribly cold. Papa, Nana, Matt and Maddy went back in to DC on Sunday so they could spend some more time looking around without an impatient little one.


On the Saturday of their visit, we were able to celebrate Papa's birthday with a homemade chocolate cake and dinner at Red Robin, Yum! We had a wonderful visit and we certainly could not do this if we were in Arizona. These memories are wonderful!


Here are a few pictures I was able to take while we were in DC. We hope to head back in on Sunday for the Kite Festival!

Friday, March 25, 2011

My Latest Project






I have been cooking so much at home and have tried numerous recipes. The Taste of Home magazines I have been using are getting a little greasy so I decided to take out the ones we liked best and put them into one binder. I also put in the various articles, clippings, and recipes I had been keeping from various Parenting magazines that I just might need some day.

When I get the magazines in the mail, it is like Christmas. Matt and I both look through them and mark all of the things we want to try. I use my weekly menu plan and fill it out using the great recipe ideas and create my shopping list. Then, I cut out the recipe and put it in our "Leonard Family Favorites".

Now if I can just get caught up on scrapbooks . . . .

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It's become a game for me to see how much money I can save on groceries. I always felt I did a good job, but now that I am really trying I realize I wasn't. By planning dinners two weeks out, cutting coupons, buying roughly 75% of our groceries at WalMart with 40% of them store brand and produce and meats at a local market, I have gone from well over $1200 per month to $900 per month. The sad thing is the $1200 per month didn't include the money we spent eating out. Now, we hardly ever eat out - maybe twice a month when it used to be at least once a week.

It pays to plan ahead . . . and it doesn't take that much time.

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Thursday, March 24, 2011

SPRING




Our first 'real' spring in a long time, and a first for the kids. They are amazed at the flowers growing, the length of the day, the colors of the trees, the birds and animals, the weather, and everything else. It is fun to see it through their eyes.

Our big adventure will be to head in to DC to the Cherry Festival. I am very anxious to see the beauty of the cherry trees with the majesty of DC as the backdrop.

Our own yard has been overrun with daffodils and crocus. We have hundreds of flowers. We are now beginning to see hyacinth and bearded iris, too. Needless to say, allergies are affecting us like never before. Guess you have to take the good with the bad.

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Question 3, Why Worry?

3. Why worry?
These two words, considered sincerely, can radically reconfigure the landscape of your mind. Worry rarely leads to positive action; it's just painful, useless fear about hypothetical events, which scuttles happiness rather than ensuring it. Some psychologists say that by focusing on gratitude, we can shut down the part of the brain that worries. It actually works!


I completely agree with this one! One of the major thoughts that got me through my two years as a school administrator was “If my Matt, Maddy, or Peyton are not in immediate danger, then the issue is not important and it can be handled.” Another one was “An emergency on your part does not constitute and emergency on my part.” Everything can be handled, one way or another and with a support system in place any decision that you make will not matter or change their support of you therefore why worry?

In addition, it is all about perspective. When a situation arises in which you feel worry or stress simply take a breath, analyze the situation, look at the big picture, and then react or solve the issue at hand. If you are able to have this outlook and attitude it is easier for those around you to adopt it as well. Your calming nature can be contagious.

Question 3


3. Why worry?

These two words, considered sincerely, can radically reconfigure the landscape of your mind. Worry rarely leads to positive action; it's just painful, useless fear about hypothetical events, which scuttles happiness rather than ensuring it. Some psychologists say that by focusing on gratitude, we can shut down the part of the brain that worries. It actually works!


I completely agree with this one! One of the major thoughts that got me through my two years as a school administrator was “If my Matt, Maddy, or Peyton are not in immediate danger, then the issue is not important and it can be handled.” Another one was “An emergency on your part does not constitute and emergency on my part.” Everything can be handled, one way or another and with a support system in place any decision that you make will not matter or change their support of you therefore why worry?

In addition, it is all about perspective. When a situation arises in which you feel worry or stress simply take a breath, analyze the situation, look at the big picture, and then react or solve the issue at hand. If you are able to have this outlook and attitude it is easier for those around you to adopt it as well. Your calming nature can be contagious.

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Isolate and Ignore

It is amazing that no matter how educated you think you are, information can be presented to you in a slightly different way or context and it hits you like a ton of bricks or clicks in a way that it didn't before.

We recently took Peyton in for his 4 year well check. We left with a bunch of information (milestones, vaccines, etc.) and part of that was a little blurb about discipline. We have always felt pretty good about how we discipline our kids. We try to be firm and consistent, model the correct behavior and use positive behavior reinforcements. We aren't perfect, but who is? Anyway, the blurb said ignore and isolate rather than spank and shout. We know all of that, but to phrase it in such a simple way really made it click - again. With a 4 and a 6 year old who basically only have each other here in Virginia, they can get on each others nerves and we can all be short with each other. This phrase has been a great reminder.

Additionally, in my graduate classes I am currently taking a class in counseling and psychoanalysis and we just finished a week on cognitive and behavioral therapy. During the reading, I was again reminded that it is important to ignore bad behavior because by acknowledging it you are reinforcing it and the child will continue the bad behavior as well because you are reacting (even if negatively).

Again, all things that I know and have read about and learned, but a reminder sure does help.

Question 2

I had many personal revalations after answering the first question. Wow. It is pretty powerful to answer these questions, digest the answers, and then share them with a friend or loved one. I will keep going . . .


2. Is this what I want to be doing?
This very moment is, always, the only moment in which you can make changes. Knowing which changes are best for you comes, always, from assessing what you feel. Ask yourself many times every day if you like what you're doing. If the answer is no, start noticing what you'd prefer. Thus begins the revolution.

This is a tough one, or perhaps I am making it tougher than it is and I am only going to focus on a career. In the grand scheme of things, being a stay at home mom is not what I want to be doing. However, there were certain circumstances in our life that brought us to this point and because of those circumstances and other reasons, I am staying home. At the same time, I am working on getting my masters degree in organizational psychology so when the time is right, I no longer have to be a stay at home mom. In a way I have the best of both worlds.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

20 Questions

I found this article on CNN.com and thought it would be perfect therapy (not to mention free) for me right now. I will answer one question at a time (won't say per day). Then when I am all done, I will go back and see what I can change or what I have learned. So here goes nothing . . .

By Martha Beck, Oprah.com --

If you're like most people, you became obsessed with questions around the age of two or three, and scientists now know that continuing to ask them can help keep your mind nimble however old you eventually become. So when someone suggested I put together a list of the 20 most important questions we should all be asking ourselves, I was thrilled. Initially.

Then I became confused about which questions to ask, because of course, as I soon realized, context is everything. In terms of saving your life, the key question is, "Did I remember to fasten my seat belt?" In terms of saving money, "How much do I need to retire before I'm 90?" is a strong contender. If daily usefulness is the point, "What'll I wear?" and "What should I eat first?" might lead the list. And for the philosophically minded, "To be or not to be?" really is the question.

Because I'm far too psychologically fragile to make sense of this subjective morass, I made the bold decision to pass the buck. The 20 questions that follow are based on "crowdsourcing," meaning I asked a whole mess of actual, free-range women what they thought every woman should ask herself. Thanks to all of you who sent in entries via social media.

The questions included here are composites of those that were suggested most often, though I've mushed them together and rephrased some for brevity. Asking them today could redirect your life.
Answering them every day will transform it.

1. What questions should I be asking myself?
At first I thought asking yourself what you should be asking yourself was redundant. It isn't. Without this question, you wouldn't ask any others, so it gets top billing. It creates an alert, thoughtful mind state, ideal for ferreting out the information you most need in every situation. Ask it frequently.

So on February 2, 2011, the questions that I am asking myself right now are;
1. What can I be doing to be a better wife and mother? It’s not a copout question, honest. I just have more time to think about it although the psychologist in me knows I should concentrate on the things that I do right.

2. How can I get a better hold on the little bit of an emotional roller coaster I go through? Most of it is physiological, but it just might be time to go see the doctor again because it is just not good.

3. Why am I so afraid of being happy and content? Honestly, I don’t know. This is probably the toughest question right now. I don’t know if I am afraid of what will happen if I let my guard down? What can I substitute for the angst? Why wouldn’t I want to?

Friday, January 7, 2011

Food

I obviously love food - love to eat it, go out to dinner, snack, etc. I've always had my regular menu of meals to make and would occasionally try new things or change it up. But now that I am staying at home, I have a lot more time to cook and it is great!

Nana and Papa came out to visit back in October and I wanted to try some new recipes out for them. My mom had been getting me a subscription to Taste of Home for years and I would look through them, but then either toss them or set them aside. This is where I got my ideas from for Nana and Papa's visit and it is what I have been cooking from ever since.

It's become a ritual: sit down with the magazines (usually the most recent one), my weekly meal planner, coupons and grocery list pad. Within in just a few minutes, the weeks dinner menu is planned. The meals have been so good. There have only been a few things that we did not like at all and a few that were good, but won't make again. Then there are many that we have already made more than once.

It hasn't just been dinners either. There have been some amazing deserts and snacks. All of the recipes are available online and I highly recommend them. They are relatively quick, easy, and inexpensive.

Thursday, December 2, 2010

PMDD

3 years ago when I went to my OBGYN and told her about some of the things I was going through, emotionally and physcially she told me I was suffering from PMDD. It was good to have a name to it and be able to take medication to help keep it in check.

It is basically PMS on steroids. There were days when I felt like I had no control of my life, I would get very angry and agitated. It was just not like me. If things don't seem right for you, I encourage you to talk to your doctor or do some research. It has made all of the difference in my life.

I thought perhaps it was postpartum depression because it happened soon after Peyton was born. However, I didn't have the alienation symptoms associated with the baby. Quite the opposite, I couldn't get enough of my baby boy. I also knew it was more than a mild depression because there were other emotions involved.

I surely hope this is not an indication of menapause. I will be in big trouble, so will Matt!